Stop Being a Victim and Reclaim Your Personal Power

-

Feeling like you are the victim in a situation is a common reaction. “But that isn’t fair,” or “That’s not right!” is something you likely say to yourself many times a day. Feeling victimized and being a victim, though, are two different things. Learning how to stop feeling victimized will allow you to reclaim your personal power and live the life you have always wanted.

Why Being a Victim Doesn’t Work


When you decide that you are a victim in any situation, you end up only feeling worse. Most of the time, you choose to be a victim of life’s circumstances or of your own failures or missteps because you think it will make you feel better. But, it doesn’t. It has the opposite effect.

While playing the victim can give you momentary love, concern, or care from others, it also robs you of your own power. Being a victim means you are powerless, that you are fearful and unhappy, and you don’t have any way to turn the situation around. This will leave you feeling even worse about yourself after you are done being victimized.

When you feel powerless, you automatically feel unhappy. It is nearly impossible to be happy and also powerless at the same time. So, if you want to stop feeling miserable, you must take back your personal power and decide that you are not going to let someone else or some circumstance in life rob you of your happiness.

Accepting Responsibility
The simple truth that many people do not really get or understand is this- no one else in this world is responsible for you except you. You can be affected by other people, but only you determine the emotions you experience and your reactions to those people. You decide. You choose to be a victim or claim your power and move forward.

Your happiness is not dependent upon others unless you make that choice. When you embrace your personal power, your pleasure is solely determined by how you choose to react to life’s inevitable blunders and negative offerings.

Accepting personal responsibility does not mean you don’t experience pain in life. It just means you decide that while, yes, that hurt, you recognize your role in what lead to that pain, you want to move beyond it, and you have determined that your sense of well-being is much more important than dwelling on the hurt. This choice is empowering because you are making a conscious decision to do the challenging thing by learning and growing from your negative experience.

How to Reclaim Your Personal Power

There are many ways to stop playing the victim while regaining your internal power and accepting responsibility for your life. First, you must become an advocate for yourself. When you know your own value, you demand what you feel you deserve in life. This means you do not settle, which prevents you from feeling taken advantage of by others.

You must shift your mindset about happiness, too. Knowing that others have no control over your own happiness is vital. Stop comparing yourself to others, and no longer allow others’ opinions to force you to make decisions that are not right for you.

Finally, you need to recognize that it is not your responsibility to make anyone else happy, either. Just as you must accept your role in your happiness, so must they. Letting go of this notion can release you from the guilt and victimhood you may feel about these responsibilities.

Final Thoughts



Being a victim is a choice. Learning from the lessons life hands you is also a choice. One relinquishes your power while the other embraces it. You must choose which is right for you, but only one will allow you to reclaim your personal power and realize true happiness in life.

Yours in friendship

RONĖL M HARRIS
Author 'Break Free'



ORDER YOUR FREE COPY HERE


FOLLOW US:









Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

4 Things That Kill Your Ability to Focus

-
Image
Focusing can be hard work when your brain is working against you. It’s extremely common to find yourself more distracted on some days than others; you can’t seem to stop browsing Facebook rather than doing your work, or even just staring out the window. But what is it, exactly, that’s causing this issue? What is it that’s keeping you in constant distraction? In this article, we’re going to discuss the four things that are killing your ability to focus on the task at hand, be it work, homework, being present in the moment, or even your housework. 1) Lack of Sleep Believe it or not, the amount of sleep you’ve had can lead to your inability to focus. Sleep is crucial to rest your body and mind, allowing you to take on all that the next day has in store for you rejuvenated and energized. Not getting the proper amount of sleep each night can lead to poor performance, distractibility, and even crankiness. Lacking sleep impairs your short-term memory and atten...
Read more

Do You Believe You Are Incapable?

-
Image
  Do you often rank yourself as being incapable of achieving great things? Let’s face it; when life seems to be spinning out of control, it can seem impossible to slow the rotation of that wheel. You may find yourself quietly or noisily dwelling in the abyss of negativity. Whether in the realm of love, happiness or success, your view of your ability to effectively deliver in these facets of your life might lean towards the negative side of things if you believe that your role in any of these areas is futile. Negative Effects of Thinking You are Incapable When we believe we are incapable of succeeding in some part or all facets of living our lives, it can have adverse effects. Low Expectations of Yourself and Potentially Others Thinking you are incapable often leads you to expect very little of yourself and others. You always believe that others are making negative assumptions about you and your abilities. These expectations of others may cause you to lim...
Read more

Mindset 101

-
Image
The connection between your thoughts, beliefs, and actions is well documented and extremely powerful. Many people walk through life believing that their lack of success is due to their abilities or luck, but in reality, the most powerful predictor of your success is actually your MINDSET. What is Mindset? The term mindset simply refers to your overall disposition, or how you think about yourself and the world. For example, do you believe that life is what is happening TO YOU, that most things in life are beyond your control and therefore not really your responsibility? Or, do you believe that life is what you make it, so your extra effort is essential to your success? Your mindset is based upon your beliefs and attitudes, and it guides all your behaviors in life. It informs how you think about yourself, how you treat and react to others, and how you respond to all the variables that come your way in life. Your mindset determines how you make sense of the world, how you thin...
Read more